• Jason Wilkinson

Six Reasons to Make Counseling a New Year's Resolution

There are plenty of New Year’s resolutions to be made for the year 2021. There are the obvious ones that people like to make. Getting more exercise. Eating better. Getting more sleep. Or even being more motivated in your career. These are at the top of many lists for people living in the Portland metro area.

And while these are all fine goals and resolutions for 2021, 2020 has created an incredible strain. For marriages. For professionals. For parents, and for students. And whether you live in Tualatin, Lake Oswego, or anywhere else in the Portland Metro, you’ve felt it.

A large amount of emotional and mental energy that has gone into surviving the chaos and panic of 2020. So, with that being the case, there is one New Year’s Resolution that should be up towards the top of your list.

Below are six reasons to make counseling part of your New Year’s Resolutions.

Reason #1 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — Because 2020 Has Been Rough:

You’ve likely dealt with a lot of stress this year. Work/life balance has been all out of whack. If you’ve got a college or high school student, then it is likely they have been enduring a lot of stress and anxiety, as well.

You’ve likely been supporting other people around you, but who has been supporting you? If you feel like you are emotionally and mentally stretched, then there is a good chance that others around you are feeling the impact of that, too.

With 2020 being a year of wear and tear, 2021 should be the year of self-care. Add counseling to the resolution list. Make your own wellness a goal. You’ll be happy you did.

Reason #2 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — For Emotional Wellness:

You are likely emotionally worn out. And you may not even be aware of it. But Covid-19 has made 2020 a year when you’ve had to be flexible like no other. And it’s possible that you haven’t shared much of your own fears or anxieties because you don't want to be a burden to others.

You’ve lost a lot. We all have. Even if it is just the simple truth that you’ve been isolated for 8 months and miss your friends, family, and traditions.

You’ve likely battled emotions of anxiety, depression, anger, and grief. Therapy can help you work through those emotions in a healthy way.

You want to have the capacity to helpful to your friends and family. Mental health counseling can help you to an emotionally regulated state. It can help you move through the emotional burdens you’ve been carrying throughout 2020.

Reason #3 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — For Mental Wellness:

Have you been living that “work from home” life? Or has your kid been doing school from home? Or have you been homeschooling your kid while working from home? In any case, you might be heading toward burnout and suffering some form of mental fatigue.

You might benefit from counseling in setting up necessary boundaries at home. you could use help in clearing out some mental fog. Or you just want therapy to help you make sense of what has taken place.

Counseling would be a great New Year’s Resolution for 2021. It can help you clear out some of the 2020 cobwebs and make space for a new direction or goals for the year ahead. Therapy can help you develop greater resiliency. It can help you understand your own story from 2020. You can rediscover your motivation and feel mentally refreshed.

Reason #4 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — To Help Your Marriage:

Odds are pretty good that even the healthiest of marriages have dealt with some conflict in 2020. You may have even said a few things that have led to conflict. And the holiday season doesn’t exactly lower the stress levels, either.

Being married takes effort even during the best of times. And 2020 has not been that. Energy and patience are low.

So, make a 2021 New Year’s Resolution to strengthen your relationship with marriage counseling. Invest in the person that you married. Invest in your relationship. You’ll gather tools and skills to sharpen your communication You’ll be glad that you did.

Reason #5 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — Because It’s an Hour to Talk to an Adult Who Listens:

Again, you’ve poured out a lot of energy during 2020. Whether it is to your spouse, your kids, your job, or your school — all the above. And that takes a toll.

Maybe you need someone to talk to. Someone who, you know, is not your kid. Or the dog. And you’ve got some hard things to talk through. You could do without the fear of judgement friends or family. But you could benefit from a little guidance.

Professional counseling might be exactly what you need. A person to listen. For an hour. And you can talk about whatever you want. And with online therapy, you can even have the flexibility to do it in the comfort of your own home.

Reason #6 for Making Counseling a New Year’s Resolution — To Get Help for Your Other Goals:

Would you like help with accountability? Or you’ve been making the same goal every year for the last ten years and you feel stuck? A professional counselor can help you get over that hurdle.

You can get traction by understanding the barriers that keep you from moving forward. You can accomplishing the goals that you have. Counseling can help you create a roadmap to move forward.


Making New Year’s goals is a tradition for many people. With all the goals that are out there to be made, shouldn’t your emotional and mental wellness be at the top of the list? You are the greatest asset you have in this life. You are your greatest gift. Treat that gift well in 2021. Put counseling on top of your 2021 New Year’s resolutions list.

You won’t regret it.


Jason Wilkinson is a mental health counselor who enjoys helping people reach their goals of emotional and mental wellness. His practice, Wellspace Counseling, serves the communities of Tualatin, Lake Oswego, and the rest of the Portland Metro Area. Schedule a free consultation today to start the journey of reaching your 2021 resolutions.